Tara Herrick
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Wednesday, March 30, 2011
"You Will Never Meet A Successful Victim"
Well, my teenager has seemed to make it a few months with some minor bumps along the way but the past few weeks have slowly escalated to the point that had gotten her kicked out last year.
She will be 18 this year so it is so hard to know what to do when you have pulled out all the stops at home and at school. It seemed she was really starting to get it and care about her future, especially at school but it doesn't take much for her to not care anymore. She has support twice a week from a state social worker, who is wonderful, a social worker at school, the counselor, all of teachers, psychologists, and anything from the state she would need to work on her skills to get a job and become independent. Plus not to mention all of the family support she has always had but we are the enemy of course. She has one by one walked all over us and hurt us over and over no matter how hard we try to communicate in a way she can understand. Still not working.
She has quite quickly in the past week and a half started to break big rule after big rule like stealing, not calling, staying out for 6 to 8 hours straight not knowing where, and now out over night, no calling, and not going to school either so no one knows where she might be. Unbelievable.
I really do feel she is only learning the things we are trying to help her with only to step up her manipulation and lying skills because she shows no remorse and never apologizes for anything she says or does that hurts others.
It's so hard to see your child do things to over and over to sabotage her own life just for the satisfaction of "Hanging Out" with peers who in turn always hurt her.
As I try very hard to improve the life of my family day by day through mindset, education, and networking I have to also watch one of them slowly rip their own life apart.
I pray she has someone watching over her at all times and that her mind starts to mature so she can see more clearly soon before it's too late.
I am a true statistic of living that horrible spiraling life that consistently ends up in heartache and trauma. It does not pay off to play the victim role. At 35 I am now truly understanding the concept of surrounding yourself with the right people and working on what you tell yourself internally everyday cause your subconscious does listen! This too has not worked with her but I can only hope the things that I have said and have taught are internalized and that she uses them someday.
"You will never meet a successful victim."
She will be 18 this year so it is so hard to know what to do when you have pulled out all the stops at home and at school. It seemed she was really starting to get it and care about her future, especially at school but it doesn't take much for her to not care anymore. She has support twice a week from a state social worker, who is wonderful, a social worker at school, the counselor, all of teachers, psychologists, and anything from the state she would need to work on her skills to get a job and become independent. Plus not to mention all of the family support she has always had but we are the enemy of course. She has one by one walked all over us and hurt us over and over no matter how hard we try to communicate in a way she can understand. Still not working.
She has quite quickly in the past week and a half started to break big rule after big rule like stealing, not calling, staying out for 6 to 8 hours straight not knowing where, and now out over night, no calling, and not going to school either so no one knows where she might be. Unbelievable.
I really do feel she is only learning the things we are trying to help her with only to step up her manipulation and lying skills because she shows no remorse and never apologizes for anything she says or does that hurts others.
It's so hard to see your child do things to over and over to sabotage her own life just for the satisfaction of "Hanging Out" with peers who in turn always hurt her.
As I try very hard to improve the life of my family day by day through mindset, education, and networking I have to also watch one of them slowly rip their own life apart.
I pray she has someone watching over her at all times and that her mind starts to mature so she can see more clearly soon before it's too late.
I am a true statistic of living that horrible spiraling life that consistently ends up in heartache and trauma. It does not pay off to play the victim role. At 35 I am now truly understanding the concept of surrounding yourself with the right people and working on what you tell yourself internally everyday cause your subconscious does listen! This too has not worked with her but I can only hope the things that I have said and have taught are internalized and that she uses them someday.
"You will never meet a successful victim."
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Spring Cleaning
Oh my goodness, it feels so great to get some spring cleaning done.
My inspiration to rearrange my office area so I could be directly in front of
two windows, one in front of me and one on the side of me. I can't tell how
great that feels to work in a sunny spot since I happen to spend quite a bit
of time there. I then just kept going and going and going. Vacuumed up sooooo
much doggy hair. Why can't she pick up her own? That would save some time.
So, if you in fact feel your office area is closing in on you then I definitely recommend
some spring cleaning and sit in the sun!
My inspiration to rearrange my office area so I could be directly in front of
two windows, one in front of me and one on the side of me. I can't tell how
great that feels to work in a sunny spot since I happen to spend quite a bit
of time there. I then just kept going and going and going. Vacuumed up sooooo
much doggy hair. Why can't she pick up her own? That would save some time.
So, if you in fact feel your office area is closing in on you then I definitely recommend
some spring cleaning and sit in the sun!
Friday, March 25, 2011
LIFE LESSONS
I went to go get my haircut yesterday as I do every 4 to 5 weeks because I have short hair. I went really short yesterday and I absolutely love it! She is amazing.
My hairdresser is also a friend who I admire. She is so strong and motivated. She is recently going through some rough times that no one would want to endure. The way she holds herself and speaks about her life experiences are just mere lessons in her life that she is learning from in a positive way. Many people choose to play the victim role and use it as an excuse to stay down in life but not her. I am so proud of her and inspired and I hope others may also face their experiences as lessons in life, learn from them and push forward and up in order to achieve the goals and dreams they were meant to.
"Change Creates Opportunity"
My hairdresser is also a friend who I admire. She is so strong and motivated. She is recently going through some rough times that no one would want to endure. The way she holds herself and speaks about her life experiences are just mere lessons in her life that she is learning from in a positive way. Many people choose to play the victim role and use it as an excuse to stay down in life but not her. I am so proud of her and inspired and I hope others may also face their experiences as lessons in life, learn from them and push forward and up in order to achieve the goals and dreams they were meant to.
"Change Creates Opportunity"
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Daily Duties
Nothing like starting your day off with over sleeping and having 10 whole minutes to wash your hair and run out the door for a doctor's appointment.
I absolutely hate being late. A horrible stress comes over me. I feel being late is a sign of being selfish and that, I am not. I was 5 minutes late but he then made me wait atleast 15 minutes. Oh well. My arm is healing nicely from surgery and that was a bonus. It is getting stronger.
So, then back home to try to focus on what my day should be all about. Basically, I had 3 hours straight of business calls last night and now must look over my notes and implement them. Take Action, right. That is the key to succeeding. Persistence and Consistency. I find that hard sometimes, but I am human.
It is extremely important to get inspired first thing then, educate myrself for the day so I may then put into action what I have learned. One step closer to personal success so I may help others with their success as well.
Have great day everyone!
I absolutely hate being late. A horrible stress comes over me. I feel being late is a sign of being selfish and that, I am not. I was 5 minutes late but he then made me wait atleast 15 minutes. Oh well. My arm is healing nicely from surgery and that was a bonus. It is getting stronger.
So, then back home to try to focus on what my day should be all about. Basically, I had 3 hours straight of business calls last night and now must look over my notes and implement them. Take Action, right. That is the key to succeeding. Persistence and Consistency. I find that hard sometimes, but I am human.
It is extremely important to get inspired first thing then, educate myrself for the day so I may then put into action what I have learned. One step closer to personal success so I may help others with their success as well.
Have great day everyone!
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Inspiration From My Daughter
I have been struggling to help my daughter in school for many years. I believe since 5th grade. I held her back in 6th and we have definitely moved from school to school way too much and that was my fault having an unstable life consistently. When you have a child at a young age you struggle with raising them and also finding out what and where you want to be in life. I was also treated not so seriously when going into the schools for meetings and concerns as a mother since I was so young. I hated that.
Mikayla finally was listened to and watched closely in her second year of 6th grade and put into an alternative school for her 7th and 8th grade years but did both grades in one year with the right support. She then was able to move onto high school with her age group.
She would start out every year very successfully but would shortly sabotage her own grades by not doing the work and as she started to mature as a teenager she was also acting out at home but not your normal teenage behavior. That is what many would like to tell me. I did not give up on my instincts.
We bought a house one town away which meant a choice of 3 schools. We picked Boothbay. Once again she started out very well and then downhill fast.
The difference, I was listened to and so was Mikayla. We were able to get a neuropsychological evaluation done in December that was extremely thorough.
We were unable to work with that report right away because Mikayla rebelled at home around that time and ended up in shelter an hour away. The school and I kept in touch with Mikayla and the staff still trying to work on everything. That lasted 20 days and Mikayla came home learning from the experience to a point.
We work with a social worker once to twice a week , who is amazing. Today we sat down with 7 people involved in Mikayla's education progress and success. It was wonderful and it is an example of hard work and persistence paying off. All I can do now is hope Mikayla continues to grow and grasp the help she is given and succeeds to the best of her ability and watch her hard work pay off.
Being home and available to help my daughter use her voice to succeed has inspired me to work from home.
Thank you Carbon Copy Pro and David Bach to help me do that.
Mikayla finally was listened to and watched closely in her second year of 6th grade and put into an alternative school for her 7th and 8th grade years but did both grades in one year with the right support. She then was able to move onto high school with her age group.
She would start out every year very successfully but would shortly sabotage her own grades by not doing the work and as she started to mature as a teenager she was also acting out at home but not your normal teenage behavior. That is what many would like to tell me. I did not give up on my instincts.
We bought a house one town away which meant a choice of 3 schools. We picked Boothbay. Once again she started out very well and then downhill fast.
The difference, I was listened to and so was Mikayla. We were able to get a neuropsychological evaluation done in December that was extremely thorough.
We were unable to work with that report right away because Mikayla rebelled at home around that time and ended up in shelter an hour away. The school and I kept in touch with Mikayla and the staff still trying to work on everything. That lasted 20 days and Mikayla came home learning from the experience to a point.
We work with a social worker once to twice a week , who is amazing. Today we sat down with 7 people involved in Mikayla's education progress and success. It was wonderful and it is an example of hard work and persistence paying off. All I can do now is hope Mikayla continues to grow and grasp the help she is given and succeeds to the best of her ability and watch her hard work pay off.
Being home and available to help my daughter use her voice to succeed has inspired me to work from home.
Thank you Carbon Copy Pro and David Bach to help me do that.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Think...Think...Think
So much on my plate today for education and then to put it into action doesn't always go as planned but as long as you celebrate the small accomplishments you leave your work day with confidence.
You definitely have to take the time to listen to your body and your mind with the acts of stretching, hydrating, stepping away so your brain can refocus and not become too overwhelmed because as we all know,it just stops the whole process and progress.
And as of right now my body is saying get up and stretch, hydrate, and focus on dinner and those kids of yours!
You definitely have to take the time to listen to your body and your mind with the acts of stretching, hydrating, stepping away so your brain can refocus and not become too overwhelmed because as we all know,it just stops the whole process and progress.
And as of right now my body is saying get up and stretch, hydrate, and focus on dinner and those kids of yours!
Friday, March 11, 2011
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Family Fixins
So, today was made up of family fixins... Started out with dog going to vet for just some minor things but still costly, none the less. Then some time for myself to go on the treadmill and listen to an old webinar at the same time that was much needed to restart me in the business sense of things since surgery. Next, was the doctor for me to remove stitches then lunch with my stepdaughter and then run off to my two children after school for a half hour of down time before a meeting with my 17 year old and the social worker, Amy which led into almost 2 hours, keeping her from her own family. It definitely was a very productive day, it just takes some time to sit with it all at the end of the day to make sure you understand it all and didn't just consume it all for nothing.
That is what I am trying to do now.
That is what I am trying to do now.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Be-Do-Have
"Be-Do-Have", allows those with the courage to choose first to BE the leaders who make things happen for themselves... regardless of their circumstances. That choice is followed by DOING the things leaders do. Then, you can't help but have what leaders have. Today, and everyday, choose to be the leader then follow it up by doing what leaders do. Then watch what happens.
This was sent by John Jackson who I listen to every morning and receive emails like this everyday and I just wanted to pass this chunk of it on.
This was sent by John Jackson who I listen to every morning and receive emails like this everyday and I just wanted to pass this chunk of it on.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Time Off
Haven't been around for a little while now due to some surgery on my right arm. At first I was excited to know that I would hopefully be feeling a lot less pain and could find working much easier as well. I have not gotten to that part yet and the time in between can really play tricks on your mind.
If you can't stay busy your mind will find ways to stay busy for you and it usually ends up thinking too much and if you aren't careful can lead to negative thoughts and then leads to non-actions.
Basically, you must stimulate your mind during down time with positive material that leads to motivation instead of lack of.
It ends up being a fine line and only the power of the mind can pull you out or drag you down.
I choose to get motivated!
If you can't stay busy your mind will find ways to stay busy for you and it usually ends up thinking too much and if you aren't careful can lead to negative thoughts and then leads to non-actions.
Basically, you must stimulate your mind during down time with positive material that leads to motivation instead of lack of.
It ends up being a fine line and only the power of the mind can pull you out or drag you down.
I choose to get motivated!
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