Well, my teenager has seemed to make it a few months with some minor bumps along the way but the past few weeks have slowly escalated to the point that had gotten her kicked out last year.
She will be 18 this year so it is so hard to know what to do when you have pulled out all the stops at home and at school. It seemed she was really starting to get it and care about her future, especially at school but it doesn't take much for her to not care anymore. She has support twice a week from a state social worker, who is wonderful, a social worker at school, the counselor, all of teachers, psychologists, and anything from the state she would need to work on her skills to get a job and become independent. Plus not to mention all of the family support she has always had but we are the enemy of course. She has one by one walked all over us and hurt us over and over no matter how hard we try to communicate in a way she can understand. Still not working.
She has quite quickly in the past week and a half started to break big rule after big rule like stealing, not calling, staying out for 6 to 8 hours straight not knowing where, and now out over night, no calling, and not going to school either so no one knows where she might be. Unbelievable.
I really do feel she is only learning the things we are trying to help her with only to step up her manipulation and lying skills because she shows no remorse and never apologizes for anything she says or does that hurts others.
It's so hard to see your child do things to over and over to sabotage her own life just for the satisfaction of "Hanging Out" with peers who in turn always hurt her.
As I try very hard to improve the life of my family day by day through mindset, education, and networking I have to also watch one of them slowly rip their own life apart.
I pray she has someone watching over her at all times and that her mind starts to mature so she can see more clearly soon before it's too late.
I am a true statistic of living that horrible spiraling life that consistently ends up in heartache and trauma. It does not pay off to play the victim role. At 35 I am now truly understanding the concept of surrounding yourself with the right people and working on what you tell yourself internally everyday cause your subconscious does listen! This too has not worked with her but I can only hope the things that I have said and have taught are internalized and that she uses them someday.
"You will never meet a successful victim."
She will be 18 this year so it is so hard to know what to do when you have pulled out all the stops at home and at school. It seemed she was really starting to get it and care about her future, especially at school but it doesn't take much for her to not care anymore. She has support twice a week from a state social worker, who is wonderful, a social worker at school, the counselor, all of teachers, psychologists, and anything from the state she would need to work on her skills to get a job and become independent. Plus not to mention all of the family support she has always had but we are the enemy of course. She has one by one walked all over us and hurt us over and over no matter how hard we try to communicate in a way she can understand. Still not working.
She has quite quickly in the past week and a half started to break big rule after big rule like stealing, not calling, staying out for 6 to 8 hours straight not knowing where, and now out over night, no calling, and not going to school either so no one knows where she might be. Unbelievable.
I really do feel she is only learning the things we are trying to help her with only to step up her manipulation and lying skills because she shows no remorse and never apologizes for anything she says or does that hurts others.
It's so hard to see your child do things to over and over to sabotage her own life just for the satisfaction of "Hanging Out" with peers who in turn always hurt her.
As I try very hard to improve the life of my family day by day through mindset, education, and networking I have to also watch one of them slowly rip their own life apart.
I pray she has someone watching over her at all times and that her mind starts to mature so she can see more clearly soon before it's too late.
I am a true statistic of living that horrible spiraling life that consistently ends up in heartache and trauma. It does not pay off to play the victim role. At 35 I am now truly understanding the concept of surrounding yourself with the right people and working on what you tell yourself internally everyday cause your subconscious does listen! This too has not worked with her but I can only hope the things that I have said and have taught are internalized and that she uses them someday.
"You will never meet a successful victim."
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